Shopping Guide to Sex Toys for Women

Vibrators for women

Vibrators comes in all sorts of shapes and sizes. If this is your first time shopping for a sex toy then hopefully this guide will help you choose the right one.

What does it go? What does it do? How do I use it?

All really good questions.

First of all there is no right or wrong way to use a sex toy. Everyone has a preference. Some women respond more clitorally, and so a mini external vibe is recommended. Others enjoy a bit of penetration - for them we will suggest a vibrator or dildo which come in various sizes. Then there are those who prefer lots and lots of vibration like the Hitachi magic wand, which happens to be a powerful body massager that plugs in.

Love Yourself

The only way to determine which toy is a good match for you - is for you do a bit of self-loving and really understand your body's sexual responses.

If you are still not sure what to get, then it's best to stick with simple and inexpensive toys. That way if the first toy didn't quite hit the spot, you will be happier not to have spent a lot of money.

Here is a break down of the different types of vibrators and how they are used.

Mini Vibes / Clitoral Stimulators

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If you respond primarily to external or clitoral stimulation and don't require much of penetration to get you off, then consider getting a mini vibrator. They often fit in the palm of your hand, is very light-weight, quieter than most models, and some might be disguised to be something else.

Of course these mini vibes can be used on other areas of the body such as the nipple area, inner thighs, tip of the penis, etc.

The only limitation would be that it does not provide much vaginal stimulation. And do not use anally especially if the toy does not have a flared base.

Rabbit Vibrators

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Oh how popular the "rabbit" vibrator is, ever since Charlotte raved about hers in "Sex and the City." A rabbit vibe is often a dual sex toy where the clitoris is stimulated along with some penetration. There are rabbit with or without beads which rotate internally to add intense pleasure. Not all are made the same.

When choosing a rabbit vibrator, think about the length you are comfortable with. Do you think you would like some rotating bead action? Or perhaps it does not not really matter.

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Also if you are a new to sex toys or you live with member of the family or friends - then maybe a rabbit vibe is not for you. With all the motor action, rabbit vibes are often noisier than other toys. Take that into consider if you have roomies.

Realistic Shaped Vibrators

Some women prefer realistic shaped vibrators because it offers vaginal penetration for a fuller sensation. You can still use it to vibrate on the clitoris and other regions, so you are not as limited.

Some vibrators can also be used in a harness for pegging or penetrating someone else. These are often called a dildo but comes with a complimentary bullet vibe.

G-pot Vibrators

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Finding the g-spot by yourself can be very exhilarating. It is an area that not a lot of women have mastered. It does take some practice before you are able to enjoy g-spot orgasms.

When selecting a g-spot vibrator looked for the curved tip. This will help locate the g-spot which is usually 1-3 inches inside the vagina and along the anterior wall (towards the belly button). If the g-spot vibe is too soft, you will not be able to apply enough pressure. Therefore look for a firmer silicone, plastic, glass or stainless steel vibrator. Don't forget to play with the clit and apply lots of lube!

Find the g-spotSome women may discover that it's a bit tricky to find the g-spot. Unlike clitoral orgasms, the g-spot requires extra time and stoking. To locate the g-spot, insert your finger and curve upwards (come hither), towards the belly button. You may find a gland that is a little rough in texture. If you were to apply pressure to the area, you will likely have the urge to pee. Don't worry this is normal.

If you cannot find the g-spot - try stimulating yourself first. The g-spot is a gland that expands with ejaculate fluid. If you are not aroused enough, the fluid will not flow making it more difficult to find. The first times may not be successful, but keep trying and don't think too much about it. The more relaxed you are, the more you enjoy this self-discovery.

Be Careful of What You Buy!

When shopping a vibrator, be careful of the type of material it is made of. You will find a wide range of jelly, latex, rubber and cyber-skin sex toys. These materials cannot be sterilized as they are porous and can harbor bacteria. Also some jellies may contain phthalate, which are plastics softeners. They are toxic, can absorbed into the body, and can cause health problems. (read more on sex toy care and materials)

Read the label properly and always ask for phthalate-free.